Ava asks for foreplay.

One of the main reasons my most recent relationship ended was a major lack of foreplay. I believe it was the band camp girl in American Pie that said "You gotta preheat the oven before you stick the turkey in". And here is my problem. Guys, who hasn't seen American Pie? She is teaching Jim to have sex. Maybe all guys need to be taught? Or maybe they just forget that we ladies need foreplay. Just because I am horny, doesn't mean I don't want to mess around first. Sometimes a finger can feel better than a "Prada".

The relationship started out hot and heavy. He was so into my body in the beginning. He would put his hands up my dress in public. A few times he tried to go down on me in a cab! We couldn't keep our hands off each other. After about 3 months everything cooled off.
Let me paint a picture of what happened the last time we had sex:

Ex: "I'm horny"(begins removing trousers)

Ava: "Ok. What should we do about that?" (grinning)

Ex: "Gimme a hand job"(thrusts 'Prada' into Ava's hand)

Ava: "Can't you kiss me or something first?" (Plays with 'Prada' with zero enthusiasm)

Ex: "Fine. Take your clothes off." (kisses Ava's neck)

Ava: "Can we please have a little foreplay next time?"

Ex: "But you're wet, doesn't that mean you are horny?"(jams it in)

So, I see a problem with this. Do you? This isn't the only time something like this has happened with this man. This was just the last time! When I think about the best sexual experiences of my life, every one involves hot and steamy foreplay. Is this what women want?(I know I do) And men want a wet hole? What is going on with us?

The first time we had this awful boring sex I didn't think it was end of the relationship. But, the first time I went to the bar after it, I found myself on the prowl. I would look at a man and think, "I bet he would slam me up against a wall and spank me" or "I bet he would stay down there for hours" or "Look at those lips, I want to make out with him in the shower".

So, eventually I strayed and ended the relationship. I don't like the idea of going through the motions when it comes to sex. I want to always have the want, the urgency and the throw down. This girl needs a good ravishing. Gentlemen, I beg you, please don't cut out the foreplay!